Current mood:

stressed

Thank God I'm not one of those "OMG MAI WEDDING MUST BE PERFECT BECAUSE IT'S THE MOST IMPORTANT DAY OF MY LIFE EVERS" people because I'd be going batshit right now.

Apparrently, my dad and I had a miscommunication back in June when he VOLUNTEERED to pay for the ENTIRE wedding. ALL OF IT.
"I want to pay for your wedding."
"Are you sure?"
"Yes."
"Really sure?"
"Yes."
"...Do you know how much these things cost?"
"...Kind of."
"It's going to cost about x dollars."
"Okay."
"Are you sure you don't want to just contribute z dollars?"
"No, I'll pay for all of it."
"...ARE YOU SURE?"
"Yes, just be reasonable."

Now, to me, "reasonable" means things like: NOT spending a bazillion kajillion dollars to get married at Disney, NOT spending a bazillion dollar on a top-notch photographer, and NOT inviting 80 zillion people to the wedding.

I'm getting married at a local hotel, with the reception at a local restaurant; I went with a 2nd or 3rd choice photographer; and we kept the guest list small. The only thing I went completely bonkers with was the cake, because I will have a delicious cake if it kills me, and even THAT was a heck of a lot cheaper than it would've been if we had chosen a more elaborate cake. So it's not that I have done the "I get whatever I want because it's my wedding" attitude. I know somebody has to pay for it, and I did what I could within the plans because I thought I had a range to work in. As it turns out, what I gave as a minimum was understood as a maximum. So now I have to "fix it."

It's not that I'm not grateful. I'm really happy to have been given the opportunity to spend what I am spending on this big ol' party, and that I won't start married life up to my eyeballs in debt. What I AM ranting about is that if I had known IN ADVANCE that there were finite resources I could've planned accordingly, instead of having to go through at the last freakin' minute and just SLASHING stuff out of plans because we magically no longer have the money.


I'm just all angsty now because I heard "I'll cover it, just don't go crazy" when apppaaaaarently it's more like "I can only give you z dollars." Which is what I asked him about in the FIRST PLACE and if I had KNOWN in JUNE I wouldn't have to be cutting crap out NINE WEEKS BEFORE THE WEDDING.

GAH.

/emo rant